Tell Me What You Like
My nonfiction, interview-based book on how sexual assault affects survivors’ sex lives and relationships will be released July 29, 2025 by Kensington/Citadel.
Pre-order in hardcover, e-book, and audiobook from Amazon, B&N, Bookshop.org or request a copy from your local library.
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Praise for Tell Me What You Like:
“Tell Me What You Like addresses the complexities of sex and pleasure after sexual assault. The book is blunt and fearless and will be helpful to survivors who have searched for information on this topic and their intimate partners. Katie Simon has filled a gap by writing this book, using the voices of survivors with a variety of perspectives and an honesty that will be felt by readers.” —Michelle Bowdler, author of Is Rape a Crime?, longlisted for the National Book Award
“With vulnerability, curiosity and compassion, Katie Simon addresses a crucially important, oft-neglected, topic in the study of trauma. Her bravery is to our immense benefit.” —Ian Kerner, couples and sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First
“A classic. Finally, a guidebook for survivors of sexual assault and those who love us. An assault survivor herself, Katie Simon takes us through the healing journey of integrating the violence we’ve outlasted, how to follow your body as a trusted teacher, and ways to discover sexual pleasure and joy in myriad, authentic old and new ways.” —Leslie Morgan, New York Times bestselling author of Crazy Love and The Naked Truth
“Katie Simon has created a powerful and approachable tool for survivors and their partners. This book sheds a refreshing light on an all-too common experience, encouraging all readers to shirk shame and re-embrace a joyful sexual life.” —Yana Tallon-Hicks, LMFT, author of Hot and Unbothered
past Articles and publicity
Real Talk Friend Therapy Podcast How to Support Your Bestie After Sexual Assault feat Katie Simon
The Lily What does sex look like after sexual trauma? Seven survivors of assault talk about their recovery process.
Elemental How Sexual Assault Survivors Are Redefining Pleasurable Sex
Washington Post Solo-ish How to be more supportive during sex when your partner has a #MeToo story
Tin House To Put It Neatly
Women’s Health This Is What It's Like To Have Sex After Being Raped: One Woman's Story